Soul Meaning & Life Purpose
Living A Life You Love
The Facilitators/Coach Training
The Facilitators/Coach Training
Do you feel called to help women to live a life they love?
Do you long to help the women around you develop greater confidence, creativity and make use of their their full potential?
Are you tired of seeing brilliant women held back by self-doubt, perfectionism, and the biases they encounter?
Do you know it’s time to move into living a life you really love yourself?
If this is you, learn more about the Soul Meaning & Life Purpose Living A Life You Love
Training.
The training has two layers:
LAYER ONE
Empowering Yourself
Inside of you, there is a longing to live a life you really love. A longing to speak up more, to make a career change, to share your story, or to reach more people with your work.
In the Soul Meaning & Life Purpose Living A Life You Love Facilitators/Coach Training, you’ll get the tools and support to make use of all your potential in your work and life – starting now. As a participant you experience amazing results: Entrepreneurs launch or grow their businesses. Women working inside organizations take on more fulfilling roles, and share their voices more boldly.
You’ll learn how to quiet self-doubt, move through fear, let go of over-preparing and perfectionism, uncover your own wisdom, and much more – through the proven Soul Meaning & Life Purpose Living A Life You Love model – with live coaching, teaching, and support from me every week.
LAYER TWO
Empowering Women
Imagine: What if you knew just what to say – and what to do – when a brilliant woman in your life was mired in self-criticism? What if you knew how to help her move past a fear? What if, within a few minutes of asking a few key questions, you could help her access her own unfailing inner wisdom?
It’s possible. Over the past 4 decades, the countless of women who experience the Soul Meaning & Life Purpose Living A Life You Love tools report that as a result they 1) feel more confident 2) share their unique ideas more boldly 3) can more easily access their inner wisdom and 4) are playing bigger in their work.
What would it mean for you to be able to bring those kinds of changes to the people you serve? The Soul Meaning & Life Purpose Living A Life You Love Facilitators Training is where you will learn to do just that. Through live teaching, coaching, and training in this program, I share everything I’ve learned about how to help women and girls play bigger.
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Dear Brilliant Woman,
Early in my work coaching women, I started to notice something: so often, my brilliant women clients simply couldn’t see their own brilliance. They didn’t see how ready they were to go for their aspirations, to do the work they most longed to do, to bring their visions into reality.
I was quite attuned to this because I was in the same struggle myself. I’d turned my back on my longing for a creative, entrepreneurial career and settled for an office job that looked fine from the outside, but that was not what I truly felt called to do. And I had every reason to feel confident: I’d been a high achiever in my career so far, and a good student in school, yet I found myself holding back out of fear and self-doubt in my work – tentative about my ideas, quiet with my voice.
The discomfort of that feeling – of hiding, of being on the not-right-path-for-me – started to grow. Slowly, with lots of support and inner work, I uncovered some buried dreams. I learned to quiet my inner critic enough to start writing again, and got trained as a coach so I could do the work I felt called to, at the intersection of personal growth and women’s empowerment.
But I found that even as I moved into my right work – writing, leading groups, coaching – yes there was more joy, but those same inner challenges got in my way: self-doubt, perfectionism, a kind of hiding. I could see I needed to learn new ways of being if I wanted to truly share my voice and have real impact.
So, my own journey and my coaching practice became laboratories to discover: what tools and changes really make the biggest difference in helping women play bigger?
I spent a long time studying and living that question. I learned there are essential stepping stones on that journey to playing bigger: the inner work of learning to manage self-doubt, find one’s own inner wisdom, navigate fear, and unhook from praise and criticism. And there’s also the practical learning – about how to communicate more powerfully, launch and test ideas more effectively, and combine meaningful work and caregiving.
These and other key elements are what I now share and support women in moving through, using the Playing Big model, which has now helped tens of thousands of women around the world achieve the impact they want to have. These are also the tools that have helped me personally step into writing and publishing, public speaking and creating, and doing the work that I most love to do for the past decade.
In this program, I share what I’ve learned with a community of practitioners – coaches, therapists, managers, academics, mentors, leadership development professionals and others – who feel called, as I do, to advance women’s empowerment in this remarkable historical moment. If you join us, you’ll learn tools and skills to dramatically expand the impact of your work. And you’ll find yourself welcomed into our global community of heart-centered dynamic women.
When we feel called to playing bigger, I believe it means something wonderful and important is calling to us. But the road is also riddled with challenges – both inner and outer. The Playing Big Facilitators Training community is all here to enable you to walk your journey to your authentic playing big and bring this work to others.
If you are tired of women playing small…
If you want to help forge a world where ethical, visionary, wise women lead and hold power…
If you’d love to create amazing results for the clients, team members, mentees you work with…
If you know the toolkit you’ve been working with is fine, but not the full palette needed to support contemporary women…
If you suspect there is something to discover about your own playing big right now…
I hope you’ll join us.
I look forward to supporting you.
With love,
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About DL
Our Bigger Mission
Tara Mohr
Brilliant women holding back, underestimating themselves and not trusting their voices — this has to end.
It has to end because the world needs our contributions, our wisdom, our sanity.
When I take a look at the headlines, or watch a few minutes of the news, I’m struck by how the people in charge in our world don’t have the emotional intelligence, the wisdom, or the ethical integrity to use the power they have for good.
I want brilliant, visionary, compassionate, ethical, wise women I know to be alongside men, leading and holding power — because they are going to bring our world into balance and sanity. That’s why I do this work.
Women like us playing big — we are going to change the world.
We could call Playing Big a course or a program, but it is really a movement. Join us.
The 4 Part Playing Big Process
PART 1
Define & Clarify Playing Big
Discern what playing big looks like for you right now & discover your unique set of “core nutrients” – your required ingredients for peak satisfaction in your work and life. Learn how to help other women define what playing big means to them.
PART 2
Inner Work for Playing Big
You’ll learn powerful questions, tools, exercises and more to support your playing big and the playing big of women you support, including work on Quieting the Inner Critic, Navigating Fear, Unhooking from Praise and Criticism, and more.
PART 3
Practical Skills Training for Playing Big
Learn new ways of taking action including Communicating with Power, Testing and Launching New Ideas, Navigating Negotiation, and more. Each module includes lab calls so you can practice using the tools with real-time feedback.
PART 4
Ongoing Support As You Move Forward
After the course, you’ll have complimentary access to future Facilitator Training sessions and our community network. As your playing big evolves, we’ll be there to support you over the long term.
The Playing Big Facilitators Training Curriculum
This training is accredited by International Coach Federation (ICF) for 46.5 Continuing Coach Education (CCE) units.
PART I
Introduction
In this module, we talk about how to redefine playing big from the inside out. You’ll have a new sense of what playing big means to you (not what it means to your friends, family, coworkers and so on) – a vision for playing big that doesn’t feel stressful, or like it leaves you in a tug of war between your aspirations and your responsibilities. This is a true playing big that works with your whole life.
You’ll also be able to see your particular playing big in a much broader context of a global movement of women at this moment in history. Understanding how your piece of the puzzle fits into the whole can powerfully increase your clarity and motivation about what you are doing.
PART II
Inner Critic
We all grapple with self-doubt. You know the amazing things your clients, team members, mentees or students could do, and the joys they could experience, if only they weren’t being held back by insecurity. This module is about how to help them get there.
In this module, you will learn:
what’s universal for both women & men when it comes to self-doubt, and what the research tells us is particular to women
why encouraging the people you support to become more confident and affirming their strengths are not the most effective approaches to help them overcome insecurity
how culture, early life experiences and various aspects of our identity impact what and how our inner critics shows up
a set of simple, highly effective practices you can use yourself and that you can teach those you support to use when self-doubt arises, so that it no longer holds them back
You’ll also explore when and why self-doubt arises in your own professional, creative, and personal life and begin using in-the-moment practices that ensure that self-doubt doesn’t mislead you.
A core tenet of this training is that women and girls do not need to become “more confident,” but rather, that self-doubt will always be with us, and we can develop a new kind of relationship to self-doubt that prevents it from getting in our way.
PART III
Inner Mentor
Have you ever felt unsure what to do when someone you want to support – maybe a client, a mentee, a student – seems to be totally lost in a dilemma or problem? Maybe you’ve noticed they seem entirely “in their head” about it, or caught in worry, or stuck between two choices when none of them feels right.
What if you had a go-to tool to use in these situations that would immediately help them access a wise solution to their problem – one that felt “just right” for them, one that would allow them to turn away from the world’s projections or visions of them, and instead turn toward their own deeper knowing? And what if you could use this same tool for yourself?
That’s just what the inner mentor tool does for us.
It also allows us to cast a clear vision for what we want to create with our work and our lives.
In this module, you will learn:
how to guide others in discovering their inner mentors, so that they can clarify their visions for the future, treat themselves with more compassion, and create a more authentic life and career.
how to utilize the inner mentor tool so that the people you support can become their own wise guides – and you don’t have to know all the right answers all the time! This means you don’t have to understand others’ problems well (or even at all) to help them solve them. You just have to know how to skillfully use the inner mentor coaching tools with them.
the common pitfalls and challenges that come with use of this tool, and strategies to navigate around them.
how to access and draw upon your own inner mentor as a powerful source of guidance and clarity in your own life and career. That means you can find calm with her when you feel stressed, clarity when you feel confused, and comfort when things are feeling really tough.
PART IV
Unhooking from Praise and Criticism
If you are really honest with yourself, are you avoiding some important leaps forward in your work because you are worried about the criticism that might come? Or do you notice yourself feeling beholden to praise – whether rave reviews from clients or gold stars from a boss?
And what about the women you support? Would they be doing more authentic, game-changing work if they were less hooked on praise and criticism? What if you could help them unhook?
When women avoid criticism or depend on praise, we can’t innovate, share controversial ideas, or effect change.
In this module, you will learn:
What the research tells us about how gender impacts the kind of professional feedback women receive
How to recognize the hard-to-detect ways that attachment to praise and avoidance of criticism show up in women’s lives and careers, so you can help women navigate beyond them
six factors – historical, cultural and physiological – that cause women in particular to get hooked by praise and criticism, and how to talk about this important context with your clients
four transformational tools for helping yourself and those you work with become less seeking of praise and less uncomfortable with criticism, so that they can avoid internalizing others’ projections or stereotypes, live their most authentic lives, and do their most courageous work
I’m proud that the Playing Big approach to women’s relationship to praise and criticism has been recognized widely by publications ranging from goop to Harvard Business Review, and was the subject of my #1 New York Times editorial.
PART V
Callings & Fear
Maybe you have a sense of what’s calling you, but it feels very hard to trust that the calling is attainable. Or maybe you feel like you just don’t know what your calling is. Maybe you see the women you support coming to you with big dreams and longings, but lots of fear around them – and you aren’t sure how best to support them in moving forward.
It can often feel like a difficult mystery, this work of discovering what our callings are, taking action to actualize them, and helping others do the same. But it doesn’t need to feel like a mystery. There are recognizable ways our callings show up, common objections we develop out of fear, and helpful tools for moving past resistance and taking action around even the callings that seem most impossible to bring to life.
Helping the people we support to live their callings and living our own is perhaps some of the most sacred and joyful work we can do.
In this module, you will learn:
the eight common ways callings often show up for women, so that you can recognize your callings and help your clients and mentees identify their own
how to support someone through the process of discerning what their current callings are, and starting to take simple, low-risk action to live their calling (and your own)
the 2000-year test we can all benefit from doing with our callings
how to support an individual in letting go of a calling that is coming to a close (including your own)
In this module, you’ll also learn my innovative approach for moving through fear, including:
the two types of fear and why we need to react differently to each
how to discern which type of fear is arising in your clients, mentees, or team members and how to work with them effectively around that fear
how to apply this model to your own present fears and learn to live with fear in a new, healthy, and even comfortable way
PART VI
Hiding, Leaping & Leaving Good Student Habits Behind
Getting one more degree. Putting off an important career step because it seems like a few other steps need to happen first. Launching a big project gathering women’s voices or perspectives on an important topic.
These are just a few of the things brilliant women do that look just fine from the outside, but are often hiding strategies.
What if instead of hiding in these ways, you knew how to take rapid action to move your dreams into reality, and you knew how to help other women do the same?
In this module you’ll learn:
eight common strategies brilliant women use to hide, so you can pinpoint a hiding strategy when it shows up for you or a woman you support
what we can do instead of hiding – a powerful kind of action which in the Playing Big model we call leaping – a unique and structured way of gathering feedback and making progress toward a goal
the six criteria that must be present for an action to truly be a Playing Big leap, so you can begin leaping in your own life & work
how to bring the leaping way into your work with others, so their desired results come to them more quickly
the shift in skills both you and those you support will need in order to make the move from performing well in school to playing big in the career world
the specific ways you may need to work with women who were high achievers in school, the key new skills to develop in your work with them, and the unique challenges you can expect them to face on their playing big journey
PART VII
Negotiation & Communicating with Power
“I just think…” “I actually disagree…” “I’m no expert in this but,…”
These are just a few of the “little things” women do in their communication that really aren’t so little; they have a big impact in undermining how powerfully we come across.
In this module, you’ll learn:
the common habits women use in their speech and writing that decrease our influence
how to start removing these from your own communication
why we use these undermining habits, and how we can better navigate the “double-bind” women face today – the choice between appearing likable or confident
how to work with your clients to help them more consciously and effectively do their tightrope walk between perceived competence and likability at work
the differing contexts women face working in the domains of corporate life, the social sector, and entrepreneurship
In this module, we’ll also cover negotiation. All of us negotiate, in one form or another, every day. All too often, good girl norms, fears, and lack of training and practice cause us to give away our power in these conversations.
In this module, you’ll learn:
how to dramatically change your comfort and success in negotiations by changing your mindset and approach
why 90% of the outcome of a negotiation is determined before it starts, and the 10 key steps of preparing for a negotiation conversation
a roadmap for 1) preparing for and 2) moving through any conversation in which parties have differing interests and goals but must co-create a solution (including with family members, friends, colleagues, clients and more)
PART VIII
Let it Be Easy: Alternatives to Self-Discipline
All of us have sat with clients, team members, mentees, or loved ones who are disappointed and confused about why they’ve lost motivation toward an important goal, or betrayed themselves through procrastination or self-sabotage. Likely, at some point in your life or career, you too have relied on self-discipline to achieve something, only to find that it failed you.
In this module, you will learn the top misconceptions we have about motivation, and how to work with your clients, mentees, or team members to set up effective action plans to achieve their professional, personal, and creative goals, and how to do the same for yourself.
PART IX
Women Supporting Women
None of us can play big alone, and our playing big remains partial if it does not include supporting other women. Yet many of us also carry pain from experiences of being hurt or betrayed by another woman in our work. This module is about understanding and changing those patterns.
In this module, we will:
Learn how we can listen more openly and deeply so that we can truly hear, know and be changed by what we learn from other women
Explore how women can advocate for each other across differences in identity as well as the obstacles and biases that often prevent us from doing so
Look at how the legacy of patriarchy manifests in our professional relationships with one another, and how we can let go of its influence
PART X
Conclusion & Integration
In our Concluding Session, we look at the big concepts and weave major ideas from the course together. We’ll talk about how all the pieces fit together and deepen our knowledge of what coaching tools to use when. We also look forward – and I’ll support you in a process to identify your goals and priorities for the next phase of your playing big journey. We have lots of fun celebrating our journey together, too!
PART XI
After the Course
After the formal close of the course, your journey doesn’t end. You’ll continue to receive a number of resources to support you:
A link to all the course materials saved in one easy-to-access location that is yours forever.
An invitation to attend future course sessions to continue your work – for free! Our alum participate again at no cost, to continue receiving support on their Playing Big journeys and to continue practicing the Playing Big coaching tools.
Ongoing membership in our private Facilitators Training online discussion group and global community.
You’ll also receive additional resources from Tara on these topics:
☆ Bonus Module on Getting Your Message Out. We cover getting media attention for your work (whether you are an entrepreneur or work inside an organization), developing your public speaking, pitching to conferences, and much more.
☆ Bonus Module on Girls Playing Big, to help you support the girls and young women in your life. You’ll hear from experts, teachers, and leaders in girls’ empowerment who are applying the Playing Big model to working with girls K-12 and in undergraduate life.
☆ Bonus Module on Playing Big While Caregiving. Being a caregiver for other important people in our lives can be one of our most fulfilling roles. It can also be difficult to figure out how to combine caregiving responsibilities with playing big. In this bonus, you’ll learn a host of tools and practices to help you integrate your playing big with caregiving, to allow these two domains of life to enrich each other, and to be generative – even with limited time and energy.
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How It Works
You’re supported over time. That’s how real change happens. This is an in-depth, six month journey with ten power-packed modules. Virtual and flexible: with options for phone or web-based formats, so that you can participate from anywhere in a way that works with your busy schedule. Real time, together. This isn’t one of those programs where all the material is pre-recorded. I’m live with you every week for our interactive sessions.
Our course elements include:
Prep videos, readings, worksheets + interactive sessions with Q&A, exercises, spotlight coaching and practice labs for each module. You can always join us live or listen to or watch a recording. Incredible guest interviews with women who inspire, offer new possibilities and share their playing big journeys and tools. They share their candid stories and most valuable lessons here. Daily practices, reminders & sources of accountability to help you easily put new ways of working and living into action – as well as wisdom teachings and personal stories from Tara to support you along the way.
To help you connect with community, you’ll get access to:
Our online forum where you can connect with other participants, get support, and ask questions between sessions. You’ll have this network for years to come. Our virtual meet-ups where we’ll gather online on video for additional support & connection with our worldwide community. Lifetime access: You can come back and attend the course again in any future year, free of charge, and you have ongoing access to all our materials and sessions.
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If you feel called to empower women during this remarkable historical moment for women’s emergence and leadership…
If you crave the rejuvenation that comes with enriching your toolkit and connecting to a community of peers…
If you want to walk your own journey to playing bigger…
The Playing Big Facilitators Training Is For You.
Lifetime Access & Guarantee
When you join, you gain access to all future sessions of the Playing Big Facilitators Training, free of charge. We are here to support your journey for years to come!
Plus, if within the first month, you find the program isn’t a fit for you, simply let us know, share your completed worksheets and we’ll refund your payment.
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The Logistics
What’s the difference between this program and Tara’s regular Playing Big program?
What are the dates and call times for this program?
What is the pacing for the program? What is the structure of each module?
What’s the time commitment for this?
What if I can’t attend the live sessions?
I’m outside of North America. How does the course work for women living in other parts of the world, and in very different time zones?
Will I get to work with Tara one-on-one?
What will the community aspect of this program be like?
What is the typical age of course participants?
Can I do this training if I am not a coach or leadership development professional?
What’s the investment?
The cost of the program is $2699 USD when paid in full, or you can choose the 8-month payment option for $374 USD/month. As a graduate of the program, you’ll be invited to attend future sessions at no additional cost.
How long do I have access to the course materials?
Will I be “certified” through this program?
This is not a certification or a licensing program. It’s a training program that equips you to use the Playing Big tools in your work for powerful impact with those you coach, mentor, and teach. If you would like to state that you have “completed the Playing Big Facilitators Training with Tara Mohr,” at the close of the program you’ll simply:
confirm that you’ve completed the curriculum for all modules
successfully complete the final written assessment to demonstrate your learnings.
Then you are free – and encouraged! – to share that you’ve taken this training program.
The Playing Big Facilitators Training is also accredited by the International Coach Federation (ICF). Upon completion, coaches will receive certification for 46.5 Continuing Coach Education (CCE) units – 21 in Core Competencies.
Integration With Your Current Work
I want to keep using the tools/methodology I’m currently trained in. How does Playing Big integrate with other models?
The Playing Big model offers a set of tools and concepts that you can easily integrate into your own approach to managing, mentoring, advising or coaching. For example, therapists can apply the Playing Big facilitation tools and concepts, using their own theoretical orientation lens, to help clients improve coping skills, increase self esteem, and foster greater resilience. Or as a manager, you might use the Playing Big toolkit to complement your existing one, particularly when helping team members around issues of confidence, voice, and leadership development.
Will this program give me materials for leading Playing Big classes or workshops? Am I becoming an official “Playing Big coach?”
No. Big picture, the goal of the training is to give you a set of tools, skills and ideas that you can integrate into your existing work. This training is about strengthening the inside of what you do, to get more powerful results, rather than giving you a specific new offering to share. Here’s how this model plays out in practical terms:
You can freely incorporate everything you learn from the training into your work with one-on-one clients. If you are leading group workshops on, for example, women’s careers or wellbeing, we encourage you to use what you’ve learned in the training, crediting Tara/Playing Big for the tools and concepts you incorporate.
If you use Playing Big written materials, participants of groups/workshops would obtain copies of the Playing Big book, to be compliant with US copyright law.
Graduates are free to share they’ve completed the Playing Big Facilitators Training with Tara Mohr as part of how they describe their approach and training.
However, we are not authorizing participants to teach Playing Big branded workshops or do Playing Big branded coaching, because we do not want to constrain what and how participants share the work.
This is all about having a toolkit to incorporate, not about obtaining permission to offer a distinct product or service in your business. Why? I’m passionate about every woman developing her own unique body of work that utilizes a variety of tools but with her own mission, flavor, and ingredient mix. I want you to learn the tools, integrate them, and use them how you see fit.
Will I receive ICF CCE units?
Can these tools be used with men, too?
The Playing Big curriculum was developed for and with women, out of a passion for bringing women’s voices to the fore. However, we regularly hear from men using the model with great success in their lives and careers. You can expect to complete the program with a model for empowering the women and men you work with, and with deep knowledge in common patterns around how women play small and what helps them play bigger.
My employer sometimes sponsors professional development. Do you have something I can give them?
I’m wondering…
How do you approach diversity and inclusion in the course? And how do you do anti-racist work through this program?
Many of the women I work with already have such high expectations for themselves and are overtaxed. I often feel the same way. I’m not sure we should be putting the emphasis on playing bigger!
I don’t do so well with online and distance learning. Might this work for me?
It’s a great question. Here are a few things to keep in mind: The course materials are always simple to access. The course combines written materials, worksheets and exercises, live calls, and recorded audio and video learning. The variety of formats means you’ll be able to digest the material in ways that work for you.
Because Tara’s programs are highly experiential and interactive, we don’t experience the attrition or weak learning outcomes that many distance-learning programs do. The pluses of a distance-learning approach are that you’ll connect with like-minded women from all over the world and that you can learn/participate in a way that works easily with your schedule.
What is your refund policy?
If within the first 30 days of the program, you find the program isn’t working for you, and you have submitted your completed program materials and worksheets from the course to date, you may request a cancellation of your membership and receive a refund.
Honestly, I feel intimidated and nervous about signing up.
You aren’t alone. Many women hear a voice in their head saying, “You won’t fit in with this crowd of women,” or “Who do you think you are?”
Here’s why: The part of you that loves perfectionism and the familiar, the part that keeps putting off playing big for just another couple years …? That part of you is shakin’ in its boots, knowing that signing up for this program will mean shaking things up.
Signing up for playing big is a significant first step toward playing bigger. Fear and the inner critic will naturally come up.
By the end of the course, you’ll be such an expert in how to deal with this you’ll be smiling looking back at this moment.
But for now, can you notice this scared and critical part of you but not take direction from it?
Let your aspirations, your passion, your hopes — not fear or the inner critic — be in charge of the decision to sign up.
I’m just not sure.
Well, if you were my coaching client I’d ask you to:
Check in with your body: How does the idea of registering feel in your body — good and exciting? Good but scary/exhilarating? Those are good signs.
Notice what part of you is hesitant: Your inner wisdom? Listen up. Inner critic? Voice of fear? Not good voices to listen to. Question what they are saying. Especially question any voices telling you that you somehow don’t measure up to being in this group, or won’t be able to “do it right,” or that the time to do this has to be just right.
Explore: Is there a particular fear or worry you have? If so, write it down and examine it in the light.
Ask yourself: If you knew you couldn’t fail at this, and that you’d fit in beautifully with the group — what would you do?
Reflect: What are your intentions for the coming year? Does this feel well aligned, or not?
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